🤦🏿♂️ I am not good at setting goals
My ongoing struggle with goal setting and following through
What’s good Fam?
It’s been a while but that’s the kind of the point of this post. So let me get this off my chest.
I’ve realized setting goals don’t motivate me.
This newsletter is an example. Maybe? Listen, I’ve been in the “goals” gym as an entrepreneur for 10+ years and yes, there have been gains but the weight is still heavy and there are always more plates on the rack. I’ve seen others come into the space and lift more and some days I am just like let me go on over to planet fitness.
“Acceptance of that has been the hardest part of the fray. “
I’ve been meandering as an entrepreneur for over a decade and I am learning to accept that I don’t do well with goals. Acceptance has been the hardest part of the fray. As a result of non-acceptance, despite the numerous “wins”, accolades, and growth I don’t often revel in the success big or small, because it has often contrasted goals I have put on paper.
To attempt describing the feeling, it’s like winning a basketball game but not celebrating because the win was by 5 rather than 20. It’s still a win but suffering ensues because the goal was to win by 20 and not just win. I recognize this is unhealthy but “Even my conditioning has been conditioned.”
Don’t get me wrong, I do understand the utility of having goals. It’s a part of my praxis as a brand strategist and design consultant. However, I just can’t seem to shake the weariness of a culture focused on output, GTD, productivity, and hustle. Even as I am writing this post my to-do list is like “Fam you’ve been looking at these tasks the last two days.”
Maybe the answer is somewhere in this post. Maybe I am just the stereotypical creative, not organized enough or maybe my problem is terminology. What if I started referring to goals as futures, intentions, or destinations? Something that would evoke better imagery in my mental. Maybe that’s too meta. It may be that the goal is to enjoy the journey itself or moving on from the goal reached. Maybe it’s that the people closest to me don’t always get to enjoy the wins with me. At any rate, I am fatigued with goals because I never seem to quite reach them on paper (that doesn’t mean I don’t try) and when I do the butterflies don’t seem to flutter as much, they just sort of sit there and look beautiful. Maybe that’s the point.
Thanks for listening fam, I feel better already. #BeginAgain